Most leaders value loyalty. Great leaders put a higher premium on integrity.

Loyalty is allegiance to power. You're expected to show deference and follow orders.

Integrity is allegiance to principles. You're expected to challenge orders that violate your mission or values.

Ghosting isn't always due to a lack of care. It’s often a misguided effort to avoid hurting someone.

Many people stop replying to shield others from pain. They don't realize being ignored is usually worse than being rejected.

Candor stings briefly. Silence leaves an open wound.

The best place to relax is near water.

After just 2 minutes of viewing water outdoors, blood pressure and heart rate drop. It's more calming to look at a lake, pool, or stream than trees or grass.

Beaches are popular for a reason. Wider bodies of water bring more tranquility.

Dear managers: A company is not a family.

Parents owe kids unconditional love. Most companies only offer at-will employment.

A leader's job is not to show daily affection. It's to give people pay and purpose, support their success, and care about their well-being.

When you turn down a request, you’re not obligated to explain why. Other people aren't entitled to know your reasons and priorities.

Being courteous is not about justifying your decision. It's about showing gratitude for the invitation.

'Honored to be asked. Sorry to miss it.'

Keeping an open mind is not about lacking moral conviction. It’s about maintaining intellectual humility.

The people who leave their echo chambers are the ones who know their knowledge is incomplete.

A key to lifelong learning is engaging with others who disagree with you.

The longer men have been married, the more time they spend relaxing and sleeping.

The longer women have been married, the more time they spend on cooking and chores.

One of the best gifts to give for #MothersDay is to close the gender gaps in housework and leisure.

Public service announcement: You don't have a moral obligation to finish every book you start.

Stopping doesn't mean you lack grit. It means you have the wisdom to let go of sunk costs.

Reading is for entertainment and education. If it doesn’t bring joy or insight, move on.

Insecure people always need to be heard. They aim to prove their knowledge and feel important. They seek status by getting attention.

Secure people are happy to listen. They want to improve their knowledge and make others feel important. They earn respect by giving attention.

Emotion regulation is not about controlling what you feel. It's about choosing how you respond.

Wise people don't suppress emotion. They find constructive ways to express it.

Intense feelings don't always demand immediate reactions. They often benefit from deep reflection.

Being shy is not the same as being introverted.

Shyness stems from social anxiety. The goal is to avoid being evaluated negatively.

Introversion is rooted in neurological sensitivity. The goal is to avoid being overstimulated.

In cultures of politeness, dissent is a threat to social harmony. People nod and smile even if they disagree, and silence fuels groupthink.

In cultures of integrity, dissent is a sign of commitment to quality. People voice their views, and respectful debate improves decisions.

The best antidote to burnout is not teaching people coping skills to handle stress. It's redesigning work to reduce stress.

The cure for exhaustion is removing overwhelming demands and the norm of self-sacrifice.

Healthy workplaces value well-being as much as performance.

To remember what you learn, don't just review it. Read it out loud.

You're more likely to retain what you say than what you hear or read silently. Actively producing words in your own voice makes them stick.

Our best recall is for the information we reconstruct ourselves.

Sticking with a bad decision is not a triumph of commitment. It's a failure of courage.

The quicker you are to admit you were wrong, the sooner you can start making it right.

Persistence is not about staying on a path. It's about finding a better path to your goal.

Cliques divide people into insiders and outsiders. Healthy groups offer everyone a sense of belonging.

It's not enough to be polite. It's critical to convey that we value each member's contribution.

The foundation of respect is making sure others feel seen and heard.

Banning smartphones in schools is good for learning and well-being.

New study of 400+ middle schools in Norway: after smartphone bans, girls had fewer mental health issues & better grades. Boys and girls were less likely to be bullied.

Smartphones belong at home or in lockers.

The most valuable indicator of future potential is not past performance. It's recent progress.

The people who exceed expectations tomorrow are the ones who improved the most yesterday. Getting better shows the drive and dexterity to learn.

Growth is an accomplishment in itself.

The best way to regulate anger is not to vent right away. It’s to calm down first.

154 studies: Deep breathing, meditation & yoga are better antidotes to aggression than yelling, punching & running.

Anger management is about lowering your heart rate, not raising it. Relaxing