I feel like so much social anxiety would be lifted if people stopped overthinking (which makes things feel forced) and embraced the court jester within. You know when someone’s doing a bit and the whole group’s laughing and happy to be there? Be that cornball. You can’t lose.

People don’t hear your words, they hear your tone and feel your energy. Before a big conversation, ask yourself: “How do I want to feel during this interaction?” Create the conditions to rest in that feeling beforehand. Set the emotional frame. If you’re tense, they’re tense.

Notice how he didn’t say “it’s hard work.” We’re told how hard marriage is… but it doesn’t feel that way for everyone. The right relationship makes devotion feel like a no-brainer. Easy and unquestionably worth the effort, even when the challenges you face together feel hard.

Charisma is your level of comfort with being out of control. I used to have a loud inner critic who’d analyze my social performance and heckle me for making mistakes. If I didn’t show up perfectly, I felt like a failure. My charisma skyrocketed when I healed that control freak.

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Doing the inner work is funny because once you’re on the other side of heavy emotions, it’s easy to forget how hopeless you felt. That’s why I try to speak and write about my struggles openly. I went through dark times to become the person I needed in those dark times.

I ran into someone I haven’t seen in years. We left things in emotional purgatory after I faded away with no explanation. I’m not proud of that, but I forgive myself, because I didn’t have the courage to say why. I met him like a brand new person. Because he is. Because I am.

Your friends are mirrors. You bring your state with you wherever you go. That’s what my friend elle ✨ says all the time. She’s learned this from hosting 100+ walks. And she’s noticed that the +1’s to her events are simply reflections of the people who invited them. I

We envy people who have the courage to do things we’re scared to do.

I can’t stop thinking about how someone dialed into today’s gratitude call 5 miles from the front lines of the war in Ukraine… Stop what you’re doing, put your hand on your heart, take a deep breath, and say 10 things you’re grateful for right now. We are so lucky to be here.

Anxiety is an overprotective friend trying to keep you safe. The more you try to ignore them, the more they’ll poke and pester until your system gets flooded with emotion or shuts down entirely. When anxiety rises, ask: What do you need right now to feel calmer or safer?

One of my greatest unlocks is having a lover with the same life vision. I’ve never met a man who cares so freaking deeply about creating experiences where people feel seen, loved, and valued… for free. Cam and I now host an event every day except Sunday. Living the dream. 🥰

All a man needs is a daily Doing/Being list 🥰 p.s. Play NBA 2K checkbox in progress