if you cannot appreciate someone’s appearance, hair, make-up, the way they dress, etc — the only thing that you could do is shut up. as long as they’re comfortable and confident, let them be. don’t be a reason for someone's discomfort
healing doesn't have to look magical or pretty. real healing is hard, exhausting, and draining. let yourself go through it. don't try to paint it as anything other than wath it is. be there for yourself with no judgement
know this: some people will not hear u regardless how much, how hard, how truthful, how loving, or how profound u speak. wish them well and let them go
it is just me or when u are attracted to someome, they look good no matter what? like, it doesn't matter if they're dressed up, or dressed lazy, they still look good?