Healing is actually for you. It's first and foremost for yourself before it's for anyone else.

If you don't work on healing, you will walk around with faulty set of glasses; mistaking attention for intention; sparks for real connection; and interest for actual investment.

Not taking care of yourself gets you out of your happy relationship real quick.

Remember, it was the self-care you maintained that presented you well and compatible to your partner in the first place.

You don't stop doing that after getting them. Rather, you do more.

It's beautiful when a person pays attention to you, anticipates anything that might give you a good feeling, and works to give it to you.

But it feels especially like Paradise when they continue to do that for you after they have already had you. Few human beings can do that.

You might be thinking relationship is extremely hard, and that if you have to work at it to make it work, that shows it's not fun or it's not real love.

Whichever you think, you can't be any more wrong. It's like saying that because you have to use glasses, the sun's not great.

Fear is good; it gets you out of deadly situations or gets you out of immediate danger and to immediate safety.

But for love and relationship? You'll choose wrong.

Choose love out of confidence rather than fear, and you're more likely to make the right choice. You, then, love.

If you're authentic and someone doesn't want that, that's okay. They saw the real you and they don't want it, that's okay.

What's not okay is bending out of shape to get someone. If you get wanted for impressing and posturing, you've lost. What did you lose? Your fucking self.

In the history of the universe, nothing has ever happened just because straight out of bed in the morning someone repeated some words to themselves that things will happen and that's it.

Things have happened because someone said they'd do something, and they fucking just did.

Love well and hard, but don't be an idiot.

Be hard to reach, let your bridges and walls be solid to pass. But let your heart be soft as a heart could be.

Enjoying the peace and softness of your heart should be the reward for anyone who struggled through your walls and bridges.

The first step to proper healing is proper grieving.

You can't heal if you just want to move on and get it over with. No. You must grieve.

If there's no grieving, what are you healing from then? As you can see, it doesn't even make any sense.

I'm forced to tell you this truth about life:

It is that loving another with all the effectiveness and correctness actually enriches your being and your whole life.

The more and better you love and your love is equally better received, the more joy you feel inside of you.

Simple way to have the relationship of your dreams?

1) Choose a partner.
2) Set reasonably high standards for them.
3) Most importantly, help them reach these standards.

Now apply the same thing to yourself!

The dream you chase, whose is it? Your parent's, society's, your mates'?

Have you ever thought about why you run so hard at all?

Doesn't matter how you run. If you face the wrong direction, no speed in this world can get you to the satisfaction of a consciously personal dream.

A big part of emotional intelligence is knowing your partner struggles to identify their emotional and romantic needs, let alone tell you about it.

And then instead of waiting for them to make a move, you go forward and give them the grace to talk about it if they have any.

You never let them breathe, do you? 😅

To love someone else properly sometimes you might need to recall in your mind the image of someone in your past who had loved you properly too.

Tap into their generosity to better your situation. Honor their memory and their effect on you by doing it for your beloved too.

For your own peace of mind, you must not confuse potential love with an actual love.

What a person has potentials of being and showing shouldn't be more important as to stop you from letting go when they choose to not be that kind of person and show those kinds of things.

The paradoxical thing about love and relationships that is extremely baffling is the fact that:

Some relationships need to be begun before they can come to a final end; the same way other relationships need to come to “an end” before they can finally be begun.

Yeah, it's crazy.

Because sensitive people feel things more, they can possibly overlook other people's legit feelings.

But if you feel 150% while I feel 100%, that doesn't make me a statue. You just feel more.

You are a billionaire; but that doesn't mean that a millionaire is not a rich person.

The paradoxical thing about love and relationships that is extremely baffling is the fact that:

Some relationships need to be begun before they can come to a final end; the same way other relationships need to come to “an end” before they can finally be begun.

Yeah, it's crazy.

Because sensitive people feel things more, they can possibly overlook other people's legit feelings.

But if you feel 150% while I feel 100%, that doesn't make me a statue. You just feel more.

You are a billionaire; but that doesn't mean that a millionaire is not a rich person.